When you love someone with an addiction, your nervous system can learn to live on alert. This article explores hypervigilance, why you may feel constantly watchful, worried, or unable to relax, and how to begin coming back to yourself without pretending everything is fine.
When you love someone with an addiction, it is easy to get pulled into invisible roles — rescuer, victim, persecutor, fixer, referee, protector. This post explains the Drama Triangle in simple language and shows how to begin stepping out of the cycle without becoming cold, cruel, or detached.
When you love someone with addiction, the pain isn’t random. Here’s what this experience may be asking of you—and why it’s so hard to step back.
Why do you keep trying even when you’re exhausted? This post explores the emotional patterns — hope, attachment, identity, and fear — that keep you stuck in a relationship affected by addiction, and where change really begins.
When someone you love is struggling with addiction, helping can feel like the most natural thing in the world. But sometimes the very things done out of love quietly protect the addiction from its consequences. This article explores the difficult truth about “borrowed consequences” — and why constantly rescuing someone may be keeping both of you stuck.
When you love someone with addiction, care can quietly become rescue. This article explores the difference — and how over-helping may be costing you your voice, your peace, and your boundaries.
When love doesn’t lead to change, it’s easy to assume you’ve failed. But love doesn’t create change — choice does. This article explores why love, like logic, isn’t enough on its own in addiction, and why that truth is not a personal failure, but a relief.
If love and logic were enough, addiction wouldn’t still be here. But addiction doesn’t speak the language of reason or values — it speaks urgency and relief. This piece explores why your best arguments fail, why love isn’t leverage, and why choosing yourself is not cruelty.
