Find Your Next Steady Step Quiz Leave a Comment / By Megan Ruffino / July 8, 2025 Loving someone with an addiction can leave you exhausted, confused, and unsure what to do next. This short quiz will help you recognise the pattern that may be most active for you right now — and point you toward a steadier next step. It only takes about 2 minutes. Who are you most worried about? A. Partner or spouse B. Adult child C. Parent D. Sibling E. Friend F. Someone else G. Prefer not to say None Q1. What feels hardest right now? A. I feel alone, overwhelmed, and unsure who I can talk to. B. I keep trying to help, fix, explain, or rescue them. C. I know I need boundaries, but guilt makes it hard to hold them. D. I’m starting to realise I need to rebuild my own life, not just manage theirs. None Q2. When they are struggling, what do you usually do first? A. I keep it to myself and try to cope quietly. B. I step in, solve, organise, pay, explain, remind, or smooth things over. C. I try to set a limit, but I often second-guess myself. D. I pause and ask, “What is actually mine to carry here?” None Q3. What thought comes up most often? A. “I can’t tell anyone what’s really happening.” B. “If I don’t help, everything will fall apart.” C. “If I say no, I’m being cruel or abandoning them.” D. “I love them, but I can’t keep losing myself.” None Q4. How are boundaries feeling for you right now? A. I barely know what boundaries would even look like. B. I know I need them, but I keep getting pulled back into rescuing. C. I’m trying to set them, but guilt and fear make it hard. D. I’m learning that boundaries are not punishment — they’re protection. None Q5. What are you most afraid of? A. Being judged, misunderstood, or blamed. B. Something terrible happening if I stop helping. C. Being seen as selfish, cold, or abandoning them. D. Staying stuck in this pattern and losing more of myself. None Q6. What kind of support would help most today? A. I need to feel less alone and understand what’s happening. B. I need to stop over-functioning and learn what helping really means. C. I need practical help with boundaries and guilt. D. I need support rebuilding my confidence, identity, and next chapter. None Thank you for taking the quiz! Your personalised results are waiting on the next page. Be sure to enter your results and your email address so I can send you a free guide and ongoing support. Time's up
