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Understanding Addiction

Why You Didn’t Cause This (Even if you’ve been made to feel like you did)

Leave a Comment / Understanding Addiction / Megan Ruffino

You didn’t cause their addiction—even if you’ve been made to feel like you did. This article gently unpacks guilt, blame, and the emotional logic of addiction, so you can see more clearly where responsibility truly belongs.

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Understanding Addiction

Why Love Isn’t Enough — And Why That’s Not a Personal Failure

Leave a Comment / Understanding Addiction / Megan Ruffino

When love doesn’t lead to change, it’s easy to assume you’ve failed. But love doesn’t create change — choice does. This article explores why love, like logic, isn’t enough on its own in addiction, and why that truth is not a personal failure, but a relief.

A woman sits on a couch holding a piece of paper, her hand on her forehead, looking tired and worried, while a man beside her leans back holding a beer, looking disconnected.
Understanding Addiction

Why Logic Doesn’t Work With Addiction

Leave a Comment / Understanding Addiction / Megan Ruffino

If love and logic were enough, addiction wouldn’t still be here. But addiction doesn’t speak the language of reason or values — it speaks urgency and relief. This piece explores why your best arguments fail, why love isn’t leverage, and why choosing yourself is not cruelty.

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Understanding Addiction

How Addiction Changes the Person You Love

Leave a Comment / Understanding Addiction / Megan Ruffino

You don’t just lose trust when you love someone with addiction — you lose pieces of the person you knew. This post names the quiet grief of watching someone change, the pain of loving two versions of one person, and how to stay yourself when who they are keeps shifting.

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Reclaiming Yourself

Why Loving Someone With Addiction Is So Exhausting (And Why It’s Not Your Fault)

Leave a Comment / Reclaiming Yourself / Megan Ruffino

If loving someone with an addiction leaves you deeply tired in ways rest doesn’t fix, there’s a reason. This article explains why the exhaustion is real, cumulative, and understandable, and why it isn’t a personal failure, weakness, or sign that you’re coping badly or loving incorrectly.

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Boundaries & Self-Protection

Am I Helping or Enabling?

Leave a Comment / Boundaries & Self-Protection / Megan Ruffino

When you love someone with an addiction, the line between helping and enabling can feel painfully unclear. This article explores that question without blame or judgement, offering a steadier way to understand care, responsibility, and how to stop carrying more than your share.

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Understanding Addiction

Why Won’t They Stop?

Leave a Comment / Understanding Addiction / Megan Ruffino

When you love someone with an addiction, the question “Why won’t they stop?” can slowly turn into self-blame and exhaustion. This article explores what addiction really is — and why responsibility for change was never meant to sit on your shoulders.

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